Friday, June 14, 2013

only kindness matters....

quite unexpectedly, sadness and fear have entered our lives. this past week my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. the cancer has spread beyond the pancreas and the prognosis is very grave. surgery and radiation have been ruled out as options. he will begin a course of brutal chemo therapy to try to slow the progress of the tumors and to hopefully buy him a little bit of time.

i ask all of you to be kind to one another. because kindness never fades from memory , it remains around you like a shawl - a layer of love against the sorrow



  1. So very sorry.
    All the very best to you both.
    Cheers, ic

  2. There are no words for this kinda thing. So I'll just say I love you, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm here to listen and hug you from afar if you need me.

  3. Bev, I wish there was more I could do or say. I am sending you all of the love and prayers that I am able. You and your family are firmly in both places and will remain there. Hugs from afar.

  4. I am so very sorry. I will keep you all in my prayers.

  5. Bev - I'm so sorry. What a terrible shock. Nothing I can say can help but I send you my very best love and hope over the Atlantic. I know you will find strength you didn't know you had. x

  6. Sending love and prayers for you, your husband, and the rest of your family.

  7. My angel, I reel with horror at this news. So much love and strength flowing your way from here in Boston. I will pray and pray for all of you.

    "These are the days of miracle and wonder," says Paul Simon. The human body is an astounding organism that can confound all our expectations. Keep the faith.

  8. Oh, what terrible news. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Hold each other close and may you weather the storm.

  9. There are no words...but please know u and your husband are in my prayers.

  10. Dear Bev,
    I come to you via Kate Pilkington and Nested. I've just read your news and I am terribly sorry to learn of it. I do not grieve learning of you. I do grieve your pain, present and anticipatory.
    There are no satisfactory words and I am sorry for that too. Know that I hear you. I lift you, your husband, and your family to the gods of kindness and gentility, breath , and any manner of healing, body and soul. You are not alone.
    With prayers,

  11. Bev,

    I know I haven't followed your blog long and you don't know me well BUT, I am sending you my sincerest sorrys about your husband's health issues. I am sending along positive thoughts for him to do well through his chemo and things to go well for him, and for you and your family. If there can be a thing as virtual hugs, I am hugging both of you.

  12. It must be very hard...I can't imagine what you are going through...
    But you are right, only kindness and love matters.
    A big hug for you and your husband.

  13. oh I am soooo sorry...we will hold you up in prayer.

  14. Oh, Bev, my heart hurts to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with your family

  15. I am so sorry Bev. All the very best to you and your husband as you go through this. Kia kaha, as we say here in New Zealand

  16. Every second of every minute I am with you guys. My love is winging it's way directly to you. Close your eyes and I bet you'll all feel my hug. xox

  17. I am so sorry to read this, and am sending thoughts and prayers for both of you. I traveled this journey with my husband (different cancer) and I hope you know others care and will be here if you need to talk, chat or just vent. Sending hugs from NYC!

  18. Oh my how sad, I will pray for you and hubby, cancer is such a terrible thing..........I hope the chemo does give him more time

  19. Bev, there are no words. Please just know that you and your family are in my thoughts every minute.

  20. I am here for you. Huge love and support to you Bev, your husband, and family. We love you!

  21. Bev, add another shawl as I send you love, kindness and my thoughts from across the ocean. I am so utterly sorry that that is all I can offer, there should be more I can give but there isn't.

    Cherish every moment, the good and the bad and hold onto them. It is amazing what you can handle when you have to so I know you will get through this no matter what, just know you are in my thoughts and I send my love to keep you warm when needed.

  22. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

  23. Bev,

    Although I just learned about your wonderful blog from Anna, please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family right now.
    All Best,

  24. are in my thoughts and prayers.

  25. Bev,
    Hugging you virtually very hard right now.
    Love to you and your family,

  26. I am so sorry for your hubs and the family. You are right, kindness is so important and matters so much. I'm sending positive energy and love your way and I hope very much that the collective good thoughts will help you find peace in this difficult time.


  27. Chris sent me - love and healing thoughts and energy to you and your family in this difficult time. I'm praying for a miracle for you all.


  28. Bev, I am so very sorry for you both - you are so right - it's all about kindness - be kind to yourselves and know that there are many prayers going out for you and your husband,

  29. I am so sorry Bev. I don't have any words that feel adequate - but I'm sending you love, peace and strength.


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  30. Dear Bev, I am visualizing the healing white light of Oneness surrounding your husband. This white light is the energy of all of us gathered together in concern for your husband and for you. Please know that I will continue visualizing that white light of healing pouring through the pores and spirit of your husband.

    I've been away from reading and commenting on blogs for many weeks, and I'm saddened to return to your blog and find this dire posting. You will need to be so strong for your husband in the coming weeks and months. But while you're doing that please do take a brief time each day to center yourself and to find the deep well-spring of love that is at the center of your being. Peace.

  31. Sending you and your family love, light and prayers. It truly sucks when bad things happen to such nice people. It knocks one's sense of fairness all to hell and challenges one's faith at the deepest levels. Hold on, my friend. Hugs...

  32. Dear Bev,
    I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's cancer diagnosis. I do believe in the power of prayer and will add him to my prayers each day. I'm also sending positive healing thoughts. May you find the strength to cope with whatever needs coping with daily. I hope you have a strong support system. I know Chris is a very good friend to you and she will be great support. Hugs


  33. Oh, Bev. I'm just seeing this. I emailed you. Chris is right, there are no good words. I want so badly to do something for you and your family. You are so right about kindness being the only thing that really matters after so much is said and done. Peace to you, dear one, and to your precious diligent farmer and your two daughters.

  34. Oh dear. By now you will be on the medical treadmill. Sometimes it is like existing in a parallel universe where everyone speaks a different language. It's okay to get mad to cry to laugh.

    Peace be with you.

  35. Dear Bev, I think of you and your husband and hope for the best in this grievous situation. Peace.

  36. My thoughts and prayers to both of you Bev!

  37. Dear Bev, just dropping by again to say that I'm sending you and your husband healing white light. Peace ever and always.

  38. So sorry for your horrible situation, praying for a miracle for you. Treasure every second you have with him, and have him tell you his stories over and over if he has the strength. Videotape him talking to you.
    My mom died of stage 4 cancer in Oct and I had not thought to videotape her talking. The whole thing makes me sad now.
    Good luck, and best wishes. You will get through this.


  39. Oh Bev, I'm so very sorry. Your family is in my prayers. May you love and live each day to its fullest capacity.


  40. Just checking in to let you know I'm thinking about you and your family, Bev. And I miss your beautiful writing. Love & prayers.

  41. Checking in (sent an email, too) for the same reasons Jayne is. I think of you and your family each evening and think of honey. Love and hugs and, if you need one, I can think up a dirty joke. I'm good at humor amidst heartache.

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  43. Think of you and your family every day. I figure your community is surrounding you with the support and humor you offer others. Hugs and honey to you all.

  44. I saw Chris Dean's post today. So sorry. Lost my father to pancreatic cancer in 1995. Virtual hugs, dear lady!

  45. I saw the post from Chris about your loss. So sorry. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  46. Bev, I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. Wishing you peace and strength, and the warmest layer of kindness.

  47. Yep.
    I have prayed for him...
    as I pray for the indelible souls
    in this nation every, single, day.
    Several times a day.
    Many other times as well a day.

    FACT: 1-outta-1 bites-the-dust.
    I certainly know, dear.
    In our accident,
    she passed-away at 17
    and Im a NDE.
    Accept it...
    thus, if you live the lifetime
    Jesus sends you, you shall have
    no earthly worries: you'll live
    in the Great Beyond forever.

    You heard this before, huh?
    Some souls it's harder to deal with.
    I couldnt bear the thot of her dying
    so I attempted many, many, many times.

    But, yet, I thot...
    what good is suicide
    when I'll see her again?
    1-outta-1 bites-the-dust?

    God bless your indelible souls.
    Cya soon Upstairs...